Couples Therapy
Couples therapy can help you and your partner increase your emotional and erotic connection, while addressing concerns like mismatched desires, sexual difficulties, and past traumas. Couples therapy is also a place where you and your partner can explore fantasies, desires, and practices to deepen passion and pleasure.
In couples therapy, we will work together on your hopes and goals for therapy. You will both be honored, respected, affirmed, and supported throughout your couples therapy journey, enabling you to discover a new level of playfulness, emotional safety, connection, and sexual fulfillment.
What we can address
Creating deeper erotic and emotional connection
Healing from shame and internalized messages around body image, sexuality, and pleasure
Sexual and emotional connection during fertility treatments
Rebuilding trust after past infidelity or addictions
Reconnecting sexually postpartum
Deepening pleasure and increasing passion and desire
Increasing authentic communication
Sexual concerns including pain, erectile difficulties, low desire, and difficulty having an orgasm
How we can meet your goals
Creating secure attachment: The foundation of passionate and ecstatic sex is a sense of safety and secure attachment. Our work will focus on building and strengthening this foundation. Through approaches including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, you and your partner will learn to connect with each other from a deep, authentic, and open-hearted space. This can be a powerful healing process through which you can discover a newfound level of playfulness, pleasure, passion, and emotional intimacy.
Mindful sex: Mindful sex can help you and your partner to be more present in the moment, moving from goal or performance oriented sex to pleasure-focused sex. Research shows that mindful sex can be helpful for anxiety, desire, erectile difficulties, and pain. It can also transform your sex life, leading to deeper pleasure and erotic connection.
Sacred sensuality: Sex can be deeply connecting and transformative. Through sacred sexuality practices, you and your partner can share in this powerful experience, tapping into a sense of vitality, life energy, and sacred union. Whether you are into kink, slow sex, role-playing, or tantra, you and your partner can access this sacredness and deep union together.
Sexual exploration: Just talking about sex can be vulnerable, scary, and brave. Oftentimes, even if you know you and your partner are struggling with your sex life, it can be hard to talk about the situation. It can be difficult to share your desires, fears, and hopes for your sexual relationship. In couples therapy, you will develop the tools to effectively communicate with one another about sex in a way that is richly fulfilling, nurturing, and connecting.
Building desire and passion: One of the most common concerns that couples come to see me for is mismatched desire— when one partner wants sex more than the other. This can lead to resentment from both partners, as well as emotional and sexual disconnection from the relationship. Our therapy sessions will become a safe space where you and your partner can both focus on being seen and heard. You will move out of goal-oriented sex and conflict around sex to presence, connection, mutual understanding, and passion.
My approach
Collaborative: You and your partner will be heard, respected, and honored in session. You will be supported in sharing with one another from a place of openness, vulnerability, and tenderness, ultimately deepening your erotic and emotional connection.
Sex positive: All forms of consensual sexual and relationship exploration will be supported in session. You and your partner will have a space to find your sexual rhythm as a couple, connect with one another authentically, and honor your fantasies and desires. I am kink-aware, poly-friendly, and consensual non-monogamy affirming.
LGBTQ+ and gender affirming: You and your partner’s experiences, gender identities, and sexual orientations will be affirmed throughout our work together.