Authentic sex
Have you ever felt stuck sexually? Sex might be fine or even good, but you know that it could be so much more. You might not even be sure what seems to be missing, but for some reason you keep getting in your head or worry about being judged or getting embarrassed. Authenticity is a practice that can transform your sex life. It is an inward journey of self-discovery that can deepen your relationship with both yourself and a partner. Through authentic sexuality, you can discover what turns you on, what is pleasurable, and explore new sexual experiences. You and your partner can, together, find your sexual rhythm, your sensual dance, and build intimacy and erotic exploration.
Journaling and self-reflection can be a great practice to help you connect with your authenticity and sexuality in a deeper way. Through exploring and reflecting on your own unique experience of sensuality and sexuality, you can discover what makes your body go “yes!” and what your boundaries are. Through knowing yourself and your authentic pleasure and sexuality, you will be able to know your sexual boundaries, share with your partner, and honor your partner’s boundaries.
Some journaling questions to connect you with your authentic sexuality include:
What turns me on?
What sexual practices excite me and are pleasurable?
What parts of my sexuality am I afraid of sharing with my partner?
What parts of my sexuality do I feel shame around?
What are my boundaries sexually?
What type of erotic energy do I like to experience (examples include playfulness, wildness, sensual energy, dominance, submission, experimentation)?
What are the times that I have felt embodied and present sexually?
When have I felt like my true self sexually?
What helps me to feel comfortable in talking about and expressing my sexual self?
As you continue to explore new aspects of your sexuality, your answers might change. You might discover new boundaries, new pleasurable experiences, or different sexual energy that resonates for you. Through authenticity, we can be true to ourselves and open with our partners in a new way, which can be liberating, intimate, and healing.
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